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I am sure that by the time you finish reading this message, you will ask yourself what is wrong with me. I know; I am a weird person but not a bad one, so here it goes. I have a problem and my problem is that I do not have any friends and I feel really bad about that. I am a 41 year old woman and since I remember, I have never had a good friend that I can spend my time with. I have people that I know, but not a good friend who I can count on when things does not go well. I would love to have a person in my life that I could call a good friend. I feel very lonely in life and sometimes I even ask myself if there are reasons for me to live. Help, please!
The Lonely Woman
Dear Lonely Woman,
Repeat after me; yes, there is a big reason for me to live; I just need to figure out what it is. I completely see where is that you are coming from. You feel lonely because you do not have a good friend in your life, but my question for you is; why is the reason for that? Is it because you do not trust people? Or, just because you are too busy feeling sorry for yourself that you do not allow anyone to get close to you? I will say that, before you continue feeling bad for not having a friend in your life, start looking for the reasons on why is that you have no friends that you can count on. Most of the time, we spend too much time looking for that special person, that we completely ignore those who are actually next to us and in your case, maybe one of those people who you call “people I know” could be that special friend that you are looking for. Again, stop feeling sorry for yourself and start appreciating those people who you have in your life. I am sure that after you give them the opportunity to be your friends, you will realize that you had that special friend next to you all along and you did not even know it.
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