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The other day, I went to dinner with a group of friends and to my surprise, one of my new friends did some weird stuff during the dinner that made me very upset. She went from picking from other people’s plate, to spilling her drink on the table, to even curse at the waiter for bringing her the wrong desert. I was shocked by her behavior and even when I insinuated to her that she was being disrespectful, she continued being rude. At the beginning, I thought that she was acting like that because she had too much to drink, but she did it again at a different event, which made me realize that all that drama is just the way she is. At this point, I do not even know if I want to be friends with this person anymore. I hate to say this but her bad manners are irritating and I do not feel like putting up with it. Suggestions please!
The Annoyed Friend
Dear Annoyed Friend,
I completely agree with you. This “lady” needs to go back to charm school or else. This is what I would suggest you to do; next time this person does something like that again, pull her to the side and bring the issue to her attention and see how she reacts. She needs to understand that her behavior is rude and unpleasant and if in order for her to get the message, you have to call her on it, then I guess that is what you need to do. She may not even be aware of how her behavior is rubbing people the wrong way and maybe after you tell her, she will change her ways. Give her a chance to change before you cut her completely out of your life. If after talking to her she continues to behave the way she does, then I guess you will have to do what you think is best for you. The truth is that you do not have to put up with this kind of behavior and if getting away from this person will make you feel better, then go ahead and do that before it is too late.
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