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I am contacting you because I have some issues and I need help. I am not sure what is wrong with me but, for the past couple of years, I have noticed that I struggle with the task of making hard decisions at work. Making fast and good decisions is one of the requirements for my current position. Sometimes I make decisions without any problems, but there have been times when the fear of making a bad decision becomes so present in my life that it prevents me from moving forward with the things I need to do. I am afraid that this situation eventually will become an issue in my professional life and that I end up losing my job over it. Is this normal? Why is this happening to me if I never had this problem before?
Dear Hector T,.
My question for you is; did something happen with a decision that you made in the past that is bringing this sense of insecurity into your life? Did you make a bad decision and now you feel stressed out about making other important decision? If that is the case, let me tell you that you are not alone. There are many people like you who struggle with decision making and as bad as that may seem, it is not the end of the world. We all go through moments in life when we may struggle a little with our decision making abilities and again; that is a normal process of life. What is not okay is to allow yourself to become stuck in life and to allow the inability to make decisions to control your personal and professional life. You mentioned in your email that making fast and important decisions is an important part of your job. If that is the case, then what I will suggest you to do is to start working in your decision-making skills before this situation starts getting out of control. There are courses, trainings, and workshops that can help you develop this skill. Just ask your supervisor for the chance to get enrolled in one of these learning opportunities so you can start working in getting better at making decisions. One thing that you cannot do is to allow this issue to become a bigger issue and then realize that is too late. Remember; either you make the decisions or someone else will be making them for you. And, that my friend, is not a good place to be.
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