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I have been working at a lawyer’s office for the past two years. I love it there and can’t see myself working somewhere else. There is only one thing that concerns me and is the huge crush that I have on my boss. He is a great boss and a terrific human being. We talk a lot and he is very nice with me. I really like him as a boss, but also as a man. We are both single, but the fact that he is my boss makes things very complicated. I think he feels the same way about me because in numerous occasions, I have caught him staring at me and when I look, he looks the other way. One of my co-workers has noticed it as well. She thinks I should talk to him about it, but I am afraid that all this is only product of my imagination and that I end up losing my job over it. What do you think I should do?
Norma from Jersey
Dear Norma from Jersey
I honestly cannot tell you if your boss feels the same you feel because I am not there to see what is going on. However, one thing that I know for sure is that even if is true that he has feelings for you, you need to be very careful about it because, at the end, you both may end up losing your jobs over this. Having a romantic relationship in the workplace is a very complicated thing to do. Not only because it complicates everything, but also because it could be seen as an issue of conflict of interest; especially if one of the people involved in the relationship is the boss and/or direct supervisor of the other person. I will suggest for you to keep things as they are and see what happens in the future. If you guys are, in fact, developing feelings for each other and you want to move forward with the idea of starting a relationship, then I guess one of you will have you make the decision of leaving that workplace. Again, having a romantic relationship with your boss is a very risky move so be very careful. The last thing you want is for a jealous co-worker to start spreading rumors that may cost one of you your job.
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