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I recently moved from one school to another and even when I like the new school, I do not trust some of the people there. One thing about me is that I am a very shy person and I do not make friends very easily. The problem that I have is that, since the moment I put a foot in the new school, this group of girls have been wanting me to become their friend, but I do not trust them. They seem okay, but there is something about them that seems fishy to me. I have never had a group of people wanting to be friends with me and the fact that these girls are dying to be my friend makes me wonder if there is a hidden agenda behind all that. Can you give me a suggestion on what to do?
The New Student
Dear New Student,
To be honest with you, I am not sure what to think about all this. I would like to say that yes, maybe all they want to do is to be your friend, but on the other hand, I have to admit that their insistence of becoming your friend seems a little weird to me. What I would suggest you to do is to take it slow with them and see what happens. If they really want to be you friend, they will stick around and eventually, they will prove themselves to you. If, on the other hand, there is a hidden agenda behind their behavior; sooner or later, they will also prove that to you. That being said; for now, be friendly with them but keep them to a safe distance until you are 100% sure of their intentions. Being the new girl gives you a little power on who you allow yourself to be friends with and why, so use that to your advantage. Do not worry too much about this. Just enjoy the new school and let things fall into place. I am sure that pretty soon, people will start getting used to you and will stop being so weird around you.
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