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A good friend of mine just got diagnosed with cancer. She is a great person, a caring human being, and an excellent mother. I hate the fact that she has to deal with this when there are a lot of bad people out there having a great time. She is already getting treated for her condition and she has a great support system in place. The issue is that I feel so bad that this is happening to her and do not know what to do to help her go through it. She knows how I feel and has told me not to worry, but I do worry. And, to be honest; I worry a lot because I know that one day, she may die. I hate this feeling and do not know what to do to make myself feel better. So far, she is doing fine and the good thing is that her attitude toward the whole situation is great. How can I make myself feel better about this so I could be a great addition to her support system?
The Heartbroken Friend
Dear Heartbroken Friend,
I am sorry your friend is sick but, at the same time, I am happy that she is already receiving treatment, and that she has such a caring friend by her side. Unfortunately, at this moment, there is not much for you to do other than being there for her. Right now, she needs a friend more than anything else; so give that to her. The fact that she has a good attitude about the whole situation will her help get better soon and you need to help her maintain that good attitude. That being said; you need to get yourself together and give her all the love she needs in moments like this. The truth is that she needs your support, so give it to her. I know that it must be very hard for you to see your friend dealing with such a cruel condition but remember; this is not about you now; it is about her so again; get yourself together and show her that you are there for her.
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