The day I graduated from college, a very smart person told me that, when looking for a job, it was very important for me to look for it based on the things I like to do, and not to settle for the first job that crossed my path. He also told me that by doing that, I would never feel like I was actually working. I have to say that even when I gladly acknowledged the message, I never thought about it too much until I got a promotion that led me to my first big-paying job.
The opportunity came very unexpectedly and without thinking about it twice, I jumped head first into the new job. Oh boy! If I only knew the mistake I was making by accepting that well-paid, but mentally exhausting job. After couple of weeks into the job, I realized that for the kind of money I was getting, the job was not what I was expecting. Don’t get me wrong; the pay was good but unfortunately, I was not enjoying what I was doing. I felt stressed out most of the time, and in many occasions, I found myself regretting the decision I made, and thinking that the money wasn’t worth the pain and suffering I was experiencing.
That torture lasted couple of years, until one day, I realized that I wasn’t enjoying the job at all and decided to resign. When I shared my decision with some of my friends, they thought I was crazy for walking away from the “dream job” as they referred to it in many of the conversations we had about the topic. The thing that they didn’t know was that, I wasn’t actually walking away from a “dream job.” I was walking away from a job that I didn’t enjoy doing and that wasn’t bringing me a sense of accomplishment or satisfaction. I was basically doing what that smart person warned me from. I was a “prisoner” of a job in which I was doing things I didn’t like, instead of a job based on the things that I did, in fact, like to do.
If like me, you are facing a situation that makes you feel like you are stuck in a job that you don’t like, continue reading. Below, I will share with you three (3) of the issues I faced during that “interesting” time in my life.
Issue 1: It was excessively painful for me to get up in the morning and go to work. Yes, my friends; for me, waking up in the morning knowing that I had to go and work at that particular place, brought in me a sense of frustration and sadness; and as much as I tried, the feeling was very present in my life. To be honest; frustration was the last thing I felt when going to sleep and the first thing I felt when waking up. If this is something that is happening to you, you probably have to take a step back and reexamine your current working situation. There may be a possibility that after putting everything in perspective, you realize that you need to start making some changes in your life.
Issue 2: I used to fantasize about not having to “live to work?”. This was a very big issue for me. I remember spending hours staring at the computer screen thinking about how nice would it be if I didn’t have to work. I hated my life because I was basically “living to work.” My days were full of resentment because I had to work. The day I realized how bad things were in my life; that was the exact day when I decided to put a stop to the nightmare I was living.
Issue 3: Everything about my job annoyed the heck out of me. This was a very simple but extremely eye opening situation. After the honeymoon phase passed, I started finding “flaws” in the relationship I had with my job. Just like in a real love relationship; once the magic was gone, that’s when the problems started to appear. I was truly annoyed by everything related to my job, so at that point, I knew it was just a matter of time before I had to say my goodbyes. And eventually… I did say goodbye!
There you have it my friends. I hope the three (3) situations I shared with you above can help you decide if that job you are doing is a job that you actually enjoy doing or a job that you have to do to be able to survive in this crazy day to day thing called “life.”
After that experience, I made a promise to myself that I would never live to work. At this moment, I am doing the opposite; I am basically working to be able to live the life I want to live; one full of challenging situations, but at the same time, full of fun and gratifying moments. At the end; I know that’s all I will take with me at the end of my life circle.