I currently have two children at home. A fifteen year old daughter and twelve year old son. I do give my children an allowance each month and they don’t do chores to earn it. Let me explain why.
School Is Your Job:
In our home, I tell my children that school is their job. If they don’t show up, slack off, or do a poor job in class they won’t make it very far. It’s my way of comparing it to working as an adult. It really is a full time commitment. They attend school just as long as an adult would be at work. I do expect great grades and positive feedback from teachers. They both have extracurricular activities they have chosen as well. My daughter does track and is really involved with church activities. My son plays football and three instruments. They are busy kids and really well behaved. Instead of chores, I want them to focus on good grades, finding what interests them, and a little community service now and again.
I know some people are shaking their heads at the “No Chore” idea. With all honesty, I can tell you that my
children are complimented fairly often. People pull me aside and tell me what great kids I have and ask me how I do it. My children aren’t spoiled in my opinion. My daughter wanted a new IPhone recently. I told her no it was too expensive. I would buy her a phone for half the price and if she wanted more she would have to pay it. That’s exactly what she did. They can use their allowance for whatever they want or save it. I am very good at saying no if something is too costly. My children both save at least part of their allowance each month.
I realize that nothing is free and my children will have to work for what they want. I debated giving them certain chores for their allowance to prepare them for the ‘real world’, but when I ask them to do something they usually jump right in to help. Part of the reason I don’t have them do chores to earn their allowance is because they are so helpful if I ask. If they never budged from the Xbox or were disrespectful, I think I would change that rule. It’s important that children know what’s expected from them and to follow through on what you say. In our household, my children know that if they come home from school with a bad grade, they will lose some or all of their allowance.
Just how much allowance should you give your children? I personally give my children $100 dollars on the first of each month. I buy their clothing, pay for activities, anything they need, and some of the things they want. I like to give it to them all at once so that they learn to budget their money. If they spend it all at once, they are out of money until the next month. I don’t believe in giving children an excessive amount of money until they do work for it.
Whether you decide to have your children work for every penny or just hand over allowance for concentrating on school, just take into account a few important things; such as their attitude and helpfulness in general, how much they need for extras and what you pay for, as well as their ability to live up to your expectations as a parent.