Being a bridesmaid can be a fun experience, but it can also easily become a stressful and time-consuming experience. Between dress fittings, bridal showers, bachelorette parties, and rehearsal dinners, the fun and excitement can quickly wear off. Here are some tips for each bridesmaid to follow in order to make the experience enjoyable.
Be as helpful as possible
Planning a wedding is very stressful for the bride, so try to be as helpful as possible. More than likely the bride is a close personal friend or family member, so offer to help whenever you can. Whether the bride asks for help with seating arrangements or would like you to accompany her to search for a venue for the rehearsal dinner, offer to help. A stressed out bride is not someone you want to be around.
Wedding planning can also be emotionally draining on the bride, so try to be as supportive as possible. Little things such as comforting her when she begins to feel overwhelmed can go a long way. Holding her hand and providing a shoulder for her to cry on is part of your job.
Don’t complain about your dress
We’ve all heard about (and seen) some of the hideous dresses bridesmaids have been subjected to. However, as a loyal friend, bite your tongue and wear the dress with pride. It might be ugly to you, but the bride chose it because she likes it, and her wedding day is all about her. Respect her decision and adhere to her wishes.
There might be days when all the bride wants to do is vent. As her bridesmaid and her friend, it is your job to listen. In addition to listening to her vent, listen to her wants and desires. Weddings are all about the details, so make sure that you pay close attention to what the bride wants. If the bride briefly mentioned in passing that she wanted to give a certain gift as favors to those who attend the rehearsal dinner, take the initiative to find places where those particular gifts are sold and buy them for her. You will be saving her time and energy, and she will appreciate the fact that you paid such close attention to what she said.
The most important thing for every bridesmaid to remember is that the experience is not about you. It is all about the bride. Take pride in the fact that she asked you to be a part of her special day, but be supportive of what she wants. Also, keep in mind that being a bridesmaid can be financially demanding. From paying for your dress to pitching in or covering the costs of the bachelorette party or bridal shower, costs can begin to add up quickly. If money is a problem, let the bride know from the beginning. It is not required, but it is also a nice gesture to also give the bride a gift. Since you have already spent a great deal of money to be a part of the wedding, your gift does not have to be extravagant, but it can be a small gift to let her know that you wish her well as she enters her marriage.