The word “wedding” is one that we’ve been hearing quite a bit this week, which is understandable considering the biggest wedding since Kim Kardashian married Kris Humphries just occurred. That’s right folks, Kim Kardashian got married AGAIN, but this time to Kanye West. As fun as it’s been to hear about your wedding, Kimye, my sister had one of the best weddings of all times!
What makes a wedding great?
I know what you’re thinking; maybe I’m a little bit biased about my take on the “best wedding of all times” considering that the wedding I give this accolade to is that of my sibling and best friend, but let me tell you, I’m not.
But what makes a wedding great?
- Kim’s Kardashian’s wedding dress: Givenchy Haute Couture (how do you even say that?) with a long silk veil worth tens of thousands.
- Kim Kardashian’s wedding venue: Forte di Belvedere in Florence, Italy.
- Kim Kashian’s guest list: Full of some of the most famous people in the world.
That’s a pretty impressive list, but does any of that really make a wedding great? My sister wore an Alfred Angelo dress on her wedding day that she fell in love with and put back at first, because she didn’t want to spend the money. My sister got married in Orlando, Florida (hardly the Florence of America.) My sister’s guest list was full of people that she loved, none of them famous (although I sometimes pretend I’m a celebrity.)
Guess what? The significance of your wedding isn’t based on how much you spend, the dress you wear, or the names on the guest list. So what makes a wedding great?
The three things you need to make your wedding “the best.”
- 1. Love: You need to love the person you’re marrying. That sounds like a given, but it isn’t. Over 1 in 2 marriages in America now ends in divorce, I’m sorry but that is insane. Before you plan your wedding take some time to plan your marriage. Stop focusing on your big day for just a minute and focus on your big life! Once you’ve taken some time to explore your relationship and your future, the growth that you gain together will be evident in every aspect of your wedding: including at the alter.
My sister and brother-in-law learned so much about each other during their wedding planning process and grew immensely as a couple, over that year of planning. When they reached the alter you couldn’t help but feel chills as the connection they shared resonated throughout the entire venue.
- 2. Love: You need to love the people at your wedding. If your list is at 300 people and you are looking over it and seeing names you don’t recognize then there is a problem. It’s not your parent’s big day; their friends don’t need to be there. It’s not your cousin’s big day; if you don’t like her boy friend then he doesn’t need to be there. You need to be surrounded by people you love and that love you just as equally.
At my sister’s wedding she was surrounded by friends and family that she loves. People that had contributed to her life up to that point, and would continue to be in her life throughout her marriage.
- 3. Love: You need to love yourself. It’s your big day and you need to feel beautiful and amazing, because guess what: you are! When you walk down the isle you need to remember that you will be walking towards someone who loves you, being watched by people who love you, on your way to seal that love in law.
My sister looked stunning at her wedding, but it wasn’t because of the dress, the hair, or the makeup. It was because she exuded the confidence that comes with knowing you are worth having the best wedding day that there has ever been.
What I learned from my sister’s wedding
At my sister’s wedding there was great food, dancing, and music. It was a fun and exciting experience and it was the best wedding that I’ve ever been to. But it wasn’t any of those things that made the wedding great, it was the love.
I learned something from my sister’s wedding; you don’t need to battle the specs of Kim Kardashian’s wedding to make your’s the “best wedding there’s ever been.” If you fill your wedding day with love as the driving force behind every aspect, then your big day will be the best there’s ever been…well besides my sister’s that is.