Parents can have very high expectations for their children’s teachers. This is fine. Believe it or not most teachers have high expectations for themselves. Not too mention the expectations put on them by administration, school boards, and state testing. Too many times I have seen parents and teachers at ends with each other. This is most often the cause of poor communication.
Parents, you must understand that when you do your part right you are by far the greatest weapon that any teacher can have in their arsenal. Positive parents who stay involved in their child’s education make the job of every teacher easier. Knowing that Mom and Dad are just a phone call away can prevent a lot of discipline issues quickly and painlessly.
The best thing you as a parent can do is simply talk to you kids. And don’t take “no” or “nothing” for and answer when you ask them questions about school. Be a little intrusive. It’s ok. It’s your right as a parent to know about the biggest activity in your child’s life. Learn their friends, their thoughts about class, how things are going. Then, when issues do come up at school you are more equipped to be a productive part of the solution.
Be wary not to get carried away. Your child is not the only kid in class. Teachers want to hear from you. They want your support in the learning process. They want to work with you to help your kid be the best that they can be. They don’t want another boss. Teachers have to answer to many people for a variety of jobs. Be an active part of your kids learning, but don’t try to take over your child’s teacher’s life. They want to communicate with you, but a thirty minute phone call at the end of each day just isn’t realistic.
If you want to help you child be successful at school building a positive relationship with teacher is important. Be supportive. It is fine to have high expectations, but be reasonable and understand that the teacher can’t focus everything they have on your child. That after all, is your job.