Feminism has a bad reputation in many circles even though many people, unknowingly, agree with its principles. It is widely thought that we are all “man-haters” and not interested in any other group’s rights. That couldn’t be further from the truth for most of us, but unfortunately it seems that some feminists have become sexist toward women themselves.
What is Feminism?
Feminism is simply focused on making sure that all of the opportunities our great nation offers is equally accessible to people no matter their gender; that a woman’s life choices should be made by her, based on her own wishes, and not the views of society.
However, many feminists are under some sort of assumption that all women must then focus on becoming more integrated into typically male-dominated arenas in order to be taken seriously. We must all become CEOs, financial advisors, Congress members, and not have family as our main focus. We are told that we must not conform to what society has designated as our “place”.
Some feminists are… sexist
Unfortunately, it seems that we have a long way to go when comes to setting a good example for dispelling sexism. Instead of telling women that their place is in the home, many self-proclaimed feminists are telling them it is somewhere else. The point is: they are telling us where our place is simply because of our gender.
This is not the form of feminism I signed up for. I want my daughter to grow up and reach for her dreams, whether they are to become a homemaker or the president of the United States. She is not a failure if she grows up wanting to stay at home with her children, and I am not a failure as a mother for encouraging her dreams. They are her dreams. I am not going to persuade her to fit anyone else’s ideas of her.
As long as we are able to teach and instill in our daughters, and sons, that they can follow their dreams (no matter what they are) we are succeeding.
Being a stay-at-home parent is not hypocritical
I do not plan to be a stay-at-home mother permanently, but the fact that many of us feel the need to explain our life choices to other feminists confirms my suspicions of sexism. We must celebrate every woman and her right to her own life choices. We must come to realize that not all women whose chosen life paths conform to typical gender roles have been failed by society in some way.
Let us all continue to encourage girls and women of all ages to reach for their dreams, no matter what they may be.