If you’re a mom (or if you know a mom, or have a mom), you know that being a mother can be one of the most rewarding and joyful, as well as frustrating and monotonous jobs ever. Spending so much time taking care of your little ones’ needs can leave your tank on empty. The diapers, the homework, the cooking and cleaning – it can wear on even the most dedicated and loving mommas. So here are some things that moms today can do to take care of themselves and refuel:
1. Have a social life outside of your children. Sure, your kids are great. But having social interaction with people who don’t wear diapers or drool on themselves can work wonders for your mental health. Whether mom friends, your girls from college, or co-workers, going to social engagements and events sans kiddos is a good idea.
2. Find a hobby that you really enjoy. Not pinning craft ideas to Pinterest. Not volunteering at your child’s school. Not shopping for children’s clothes. Do you get my point? Something you enjoy. Reading. Running. Learn to cook a new cuisine. Garden. Learn another language. Remember that you were a person before you had these little people, and you deserve to have your own interests and hobbies. It’s good for you – and for your family.
3. Don’t be afraid to get away when you need to. There are times when you just need a break. Ask your partner to take over, hire a sitter, or call in the grandparents. Get away for an afternoon, a day, an overnight, whatever works for you. A night at a hotel just 10 minutes from your house could be just the refreshing break that you need.
4. Remember that this stage (and every stage) is temporary. Crying because your newborn won’t sleep for more than 45 minutes? Losing it trying to potty train your toddler? Frustrated with a 10-year-old who’s started taking back? Remember that each of these stages are temporary and come with their own challenges – and rewards.
5. Don’t sweat the details. Before you get overly stressed, ask yourself if this decision or issue will really matter in 1, 5 or 10 years. If it will matter in 10 years, stress away! If not, relax. In a year, will it really matter if you let your 2-year-old wear her winter boots in August?
So moms out there, take care of yourselves. You deserve it, and your little ones need a happy and healthy mom.