When you see women passing with babies and you think they just look so cute, it makes you want to have one of your own. Or when you start to think about your internal clock, you may feel the need to rush in finding a mate, so that you can procreate. Well pregnancy is an exciting time for women who are prepared and ready to have a child. For others it can be nerve wrecking and cause a lot of anxiety. So its a great idea to consider these few things before having a baby to make sure you are ready and when the time comes. When I was pregnant with my daughter, I learned life lessons I would like to share. Here are my top Five “F’s.”
The first thing you should think about when wanting to have a child is who the father going to be. If you are unsure about the man you are with, be very careful if you are sexually active because having the wrong man father your child can be a life long nightmare. For those looking for Mr. Right, take your time and be patient. The right one will come around. Don’t settle for less than you deserve because if you are in a rush to have a baby. For those who have or think they found Mr. Right, ask questions! Ask all sorts of questions that pertain to parenthood. List all the things important to you in parenting, and see if you all are compatible. That is very very important, and will save you headache and issues later on.
Finances is usually one of the things people think about in the present, but not in the future. People know babies cost money, but if your a first time mom, you might be shocked how much money when you actually start spending. Babies grow out of their clothes very quickly. So you will be buying new clothes quite often. Not only that, but babies get their clothes soiled quite often, so its a good idea to buy a lot of “onesies” and bibs, which also cost money. Babies need formula if you don’t plan to breastfeed, which I suggest you check out formula prices and calculate how much that will cost you monthly. Diapers and wipes are a big part of the baby budget, so find the current prices and calculate the cost of that also. Make sure to make a list of all the things you and your baby will need. (car seat, crib, breast pump etc) Down the line the babies needs will change, so make sure you calculate the cost per month. Being realistic and ready for the cost will make pregnancy a more exciting and happy time.
This may seem like something that’s not really important. However it actually can be for some women. If you are the type of woman that is body conscious and wants to maintain a certain weight. You should consider the average healthy weight you should gain in pregnancy. If this extra weight is not okay with you, then you should rethink pregnancy. For those that are okay with gaining but want to loose after, I want to give you some advice that no one told me. You will not loose all of the tummy fat as soon as you have the baby. You will still look somewhat pregnant. Also you have to put in effort to go back to your original figure. Some women never loose all of the extra pounds in the mid-section. After having a baby its easier to loose the extra weight by breast feeding. If your planning on having a baby you can choose to loose a few pounds before conceiving, as long as you will still be a healthy weight. Sometimes the weight a woman gains can cause depression later on in pregnancy or after. So just keep in mind you will gain weight, and think about if your going to be okay with it. You are going to have the drive, and put in the work to loose the weight after pregnancy.
Family and Friends
Its a good idea to think of who will help you care for your baby after delivery. You want to make sure you have a good support system of family and friends. If you don’t have someone to help you, then having a child can be stressful. You don’t want to have to wonder whose going to take care of your child while your at work etc. Also every mom needs free time. Make sure that you know you will have your support system to have time to care for yourself too. Make sure you also plan with your partner how you are going to work out feeding in the middle of the night. Its good to take turns in it, to make sure you both are rested.
Lastly, think about your future life with your new baby. Ask yourself, Are you ready to have a baby, or just rushing into it? Are you ready to be responsible for another human being? Are your ready to put the needs of your baby over your own needs and wants? Did you get to accomplish what you want to accomplish that having a child might hinder? Etc.