Some relationships take a lot of work, others do not. For a relationship to be successful though, both people within the relationship need to have respect for each other. There are some things like infidelity that can ruin a relationship. However, there are often “smaller” problems that can found within a relationship that too can ruin it.
Do not complain about ones spouse or significant other to other people, especially their friends and family members. This only causes problems within ones relationship, not to mention the awkward situation it places those whom one is talking to. Find ways to approach ones partner in a non confrontational way to discuss the problem at hand.
No two people are alike. Those who are in happy relationships do not compare their spouse or significant other to others. This is very unfair and can lead to hurt feelings and lost of trust, not to mention insecurity. This is one of the most hurtful things one can do to a loved one. Try to remember the old phrase “the grass isn’t always greener on the other side.”
We are responsible for our own actions in life. Stop blaming others, mainly ones spouse or ones significant other problems within the relationship. One needs to be responsible for his or her own feelings and actions in the relationship.
No one likes to be criticized. When one criticizes ones spouse or ones significant other, this only ruins the relationship and creates a barrier. No one is perfect, and there will be things that someone does that bothers one from time to time. However, instead of criticizing them about it, approach it in a tactful manner. It is important not to hurt the ones we love.
Nagging is a horrible thing to do to a loved one. No one wants to be pushed or pressured into doing something. Nagging creates can create resentment in a relationship. Instead of nagging, show support or provide encouragement to ones spouse or significant other.
By avoiding to do the five aforementioned things, one shows respect and love for ones spouse or significant other. Take time to evaluate ones relationship. If these things are being done in ones relationship find ways to stop doing them or talk to ones partner is they are being done to oneself. Relationships do require some work, but treating ones partner with the love and affection that they deserve helps to build the foundation for a strong relationship