Teaching your child to be more responsible is important. You want your kids to be able to make good decisions and be able to take care of their responsibilities now and especially later on in life. It’s can be easy to teach a child to be more responsible. Responsible behavior deserves some sort of reward. You will condition your child to become more responsible by the positive outcomes it brings.
Find what makes your child tick is the trick
What can be seen as a reward and a punishment may be different for each individual. For instance telling a child to go to their room for disobeying you may work well for those that love being outdoors. But for most introverts, that’s not really a punishment, and that wont be as effective. I’m an introverted person and being in my room and having solitude where I can relax and enjoy music or a book is actually a reward for my personality.
Don’t do all of the work
Give your child chores. Having a list of responsibilities is very good for kids. You also need to make sure that you hold them accountable. My mom choose to not pay more for the chores I did. She believed it’s good let kids do it without being paid because it teaches them more responsibility. As a result of that, I know there are certain things I’m supposed to do whether I’m paid or not in the real world. However, it does work as a good reward. So to each it’s own.
Make sure your child has clear expectations and consequences
Psychologists say one of the most important thing in parenting is consistency. It’s important to do what you say you’re going to do. Sometimes it’s hard to punish your child when they do something wrong, but you should never reward bad behavior. I have learned never to give in to my child if they haven’t followed through with sometime thing you asked of them. My daughter knows crying or throwing a tantrum never gets her what she wants. Children and adolescents need to know that there are consequences. I always let my daughter know exactly what I want her to do. She also knows what will happen if she doesn’t do them. I set clear standards and goals for her. When she does a job well done I make sure to reward her. I also let her know how important it is to be responsible.
Let your child figure it out
Letting your child solve problems on their own may boost their self-esteem and also make them feel more in control of their life. Once you give your kids the tools they need to be successful in solving a conflict, or issue, let them try to work it out. A little guidance is needed along the way but giving your child the opportunity to handle a problem is a big step in learning. When I was younger I felt a strong since of pride when I was able to make the right choice. Sometimes we make mistakes, but learning from them is key.