Moving is hard, particularly when you’re moving a long distance. There is oh so very much to think about. There’s all the logistics, and all the bureaucracy, and all the going through and getting rid of things, and possibly handing children and pets. It’s a really big hassle. But there are four things you can do to stay calm:
1. Determination. When you’ve made the decision to move, it is happening whether you like it or not. So a certain amount of determination is needed to keep your sanity. Don’t let the move bowl you over, instead take the reins. Push yourself to be determined every day. If some of the details are fuzzy, pick the best option for you and be determined that it will work out. So if you want to move on a certain day, but you’re unsure you’ll be able to, just decide that you will. You can change it later if you need to.
2. Back-up plans. While you’re honing in on your determination, and forcing everything to happen just the way you want it, take an extra minute or two to think of some back-up plans. Write down a list of back-up plans. You may want something to work out one way, but what would you do if it doesn’t? If you already ask yourself that question, and give yourself a few possible solutions, then if something goes wrong you don’t have to freak out. You can just move on to plan B.
3. Asking for help. Yes, you will probably need people to help you with the actual moving part of the move, but don’t be afraid to ask for help in other ways. Even if it’s just asking someone to come over with a bottle of wine on the nights where you are too stressed to handle it. Reach out to your friends and tell them what they can do to alleviate the stress. Everybody has moved before at least once, everyone knows what you’re going through.
4. Living for the moment. Find a zen in ordinary moments where you have done everything that you can possibly do for the day. If you’re in bed enjoy the moment of rest. Don’t let yourself swirl your brain around with everything that you have to do. If need be, have a notebook ready to write it down, but close the notebook, metaphorically and actually, when you’re done. This is easier said than done, but be mindful of the times when there is nothing left for you to do for the day. Remind yourself to let those moments be so that you can take some deep breaths and do relaxing activities that help to alleviate the stress.