So you finally got that big date coming up, and now you just need to figure out what in the world you’re going to wear. One of the first thoughts that may have gone through your head is that you have to look SEXY, and be able to turn him on right? You’ve thought of wearing that skin-tight bodycon dress, or that cleavage bearing blouse, or those super high heels, or those skinny jeans that you can barely walk in. Well, I’m here to suggest a couple of other options that don’t include you showing as much skin as you think you need to. (No Spanx, special creams, or botox needed.)
Comfort over cleavage. Unless you want him staring at your cleavage, or actively trying not to stare at your cleavage all night (which might be just as distracting), then don’t give him the option. Yes, it might be sexy for you to show a little skin, but why not show him a little bit of your brains and personality first? And it will make the both of you more comfortable when you don’t have two other buddies crashing your date. Make him earn the opportunity and privilege to physically see more of you later… if you know what I mean.
Less is more. (Less makeup that is.) A lot of women think that they need to pile on tons of makeup for that first date, and that they need to achieve the most sultry smokey eye, or reddest of lips to sweep him off his feet. Believe it or not, most men don’t even understand what a smokey eye is, and the thought of getting all that red stuff on his own lips is just not a fun thought! If you ask any guy, natural beauty is much more attractive than a woman who has to hide behind layers of makeup. There’s nothing wrong with using makeup to highlight or bring out certain parts of your face, but let it do just that. Use it to bring out the best parts of your face, and hide minor imperfections, but don’t let it overshadow your natural beauty. If he ever gets the privilege to see you without makeup, you want him to think, “Wow, you really don’t need all that makeup,” and not, “Wow, are you sure you’re the same person I asked out to dinner?” Yikes.
Make sure YOU wear the outfit, don’t let the outfit wear you. No matter what you decide to wear, make sure that it represents who you are as a person, and they you feel like yourself in it. Give him the best representation of who you are within, with what you wear outside. Try on different outfits, and regardless of what it looks like, be in touch with how it makes you feel versus how you think you look. If you are confident, and happy when you put that outfit on, then that’s all that matters. Don’t change yourself (or your outfit) to impress him. Dress to impress yourself, and you’ll already come out of that date a winner.
And lastly, good luck, have fun, and be sure to show him the real you! Because in the end, that is really what will turn him on.