Most women dream of getting married as a little girl and for some reason our society has made it a social norm for women to marry by thirty. Once a woman turns thirty then the question becomes, When are you getting married? And if you are a woman in your mid-thirties and single then everyone wonders why you are still single. Some women struggle to find long lasting relationships and often blame being single on men. However, if you are a single woman and unable to be in a relationship it may not be the men…it may be YOU. After years of counseling my single girlfriends I came up with three reasons why most women are hitting thirty-five and still looking for “Mr. Right.”
1) The Independent Woman. Yes, Beyoncé made being an independent woman popular but in reality a woman that is too independent will always be single. Men do not want women who are too independent. Men want a confident woman who will still let the man be the man in the relationship. A man wants to feel needed. Thus, if you can do everything yourself and do not need a man then prepare to stay single.
2) The Nag. All men will run quickly from a woman who nags all the time. Do not be a woman who criticizes and nit-picks everything the man does. As a woman, pick the things that really bother you the most and discuss those with your man instead of yelling or fighting. And this list cannot be longer than 5 things because when your list is too long then the man will tune you out. Lastly, do not bark orders to your man or demand that he do certain things. This method is never productive and will usually end up in an argument.
3) The Whiner. No one likes a person who is a chronic complainer or who whines all the time. For example, your man makes you dinner and instead of you complementing him for his efforts you whine about how there is not enough seasoning on the food. Also, do not be the woman who is never satisfied about anything in life and always has something negative to say. Men want someone who is fun and upbeat and not a negative person.
So in a nutshell, if you still single and wonder why you have not found “the one” it might be because you are too independent, a nag or a whiner.