In today’s society it’s not uncommon to find someone to date online. Here are some tips and advice for anyone seeking a date online.
1. Use a current picture.
The first thing your potential date will see about you is your profile. It’s important to be yourself and not create the “perfect person” on your profile. Use a current picture that shows how you really look. Many people will choose an older picture because they think it’s when they looked “better”. Doing this can backfire. Not only will it show your date that you aren’t truthful but it can also put unwanted stress on yourself trying to be something you aren’t.
2. Be truthful on your profile.
Another important thing to do on your profile is to fill it out with activities you actually enjoy. If you don’t like outdoor activities say that! Making your profile full of true information will help match you with someone that enjoys the same activities as you.
3. Proper spelling and grammar is key.
Again, your profile right now is representing you until you meet people in person. It’s good to have proper spelling and grammar throughout your entire profile. Most people are turned off by a lot of misspelled words and bad grammar. It’s best to write your profile bio in a word processing program first, spell check, fix any grammar errors, and then copy and paste it onto your ‘About Me’ section. Think of your profile as a resume. Make sure you sound professional.
4. State what you are looking for upfront.
Like what was stated in tip number 2, be truthful. State exactly what you are looking for may; it be just casual dating, a serious relationship, or just someone to spend a night with. This will weed out people that aren’t looking for the same thing you are looking for which means one step closer to making the perfect match.
5. Meet in a neutral public place.
Sadly sometimes people aren’t the same in real life as they are online. If you agree to meet someone meet them in a public place such as a coffee shop. This is a good testing ground to see if they are who they said they were online and to see if you both click as well in real life as you did online.
6. Don’t give out your phone number until after you meet.
After you meet and after you decide that you want to further the relationship is a good time to give your phone number. Before that stick to just communicating through the website where you met or email. You can even create a new email that is just used specifically for dating websites and the people you meet on them. If for some reason you did give them your number and things don’t turn out to be that great and they start harassing you through texts or phone calls, call your phone provider and ask them to block the harasser’s number. Many phone companies, like Verizon Wireless, let you block numbers easily online. You may have to do that if things don’t turn out.
7. Let someone know when and where you are meeting your date.
It’s not that hard to make a profile on a dating website. This means that practically anyone, good and bad, is on dating websites. When you plan to meet up with someone, tell a close friend or family member your intentions and when and where you plan on meeting this person. It’s also a good idea to send a text to the friend or family member letting you know if you are okay.
8. Don’t go home with them after the first date.
If things are going well you may get asked to come home with the person. It’s best to not do that right away. You still don’t know this person too well just yet. Go on a couple more dates in public before beginning private dates. Going over to their house right away might make you feel pressured to do things you might not want to do just yet. It could also be a trap and you might find yourself in a scary situation that you don’t want to be in. If they are truly a nice person and you can see yourself dating them some more voice that you want to wait for now. If they agree to that then that’s a good sign that this is going to be a good relationship. If they aren’t too happy and pressure you over and over again it might be a good idea to just end the relationship now as this shows what the future may hold.
9. Don’t feel like you have to tell them your whole life story right away.
Just like in real dating, if you meet someone online, don’t feel pressured to tell them every little thing about your entire life. It’s good to find some common interests but hold back a little so you have things to talk about when you meet up and start going on dates. As the relationship progresses release more information. Sometimes it’s best to not be an open book right away even if that’s your personality. This is also good if things don’t turn out you won’t feel like you shared too much.
10. Don’t be over paranoid and enjoy the first “date”.
If you cover all your bases safetywise, try to enjoy the first meeting. It’s exciting to meet someone new but it also can make you nervous and worrisome. If you have followed all the previous tips and are cautious about where and when you are meeting then you shouldn’t have to worry much. Enjoy meeting this new person and let it be a time where you can forget about your job and other worries you may have and just have a good time.